It Girl

Most people are not stagnant. I have mentioned it before, but as time progresses we inevitably change. Sometimes, however, we may not know who we want to change into until we see someone else do it first. Those that (are lucky enough to - kidding) know me now, may be familiar with my current self, but I used to be very different. Almost like the opposite of who I am today. I used to know this girl that at the time, she embodied all the traits I wished I had. To clarify, I wasn’t particularly envious but rather curious about this personality that was somewhat different than my own. She was confident in herself and met new people with ease. She always had a nice outfit on regardless of the weather. I really admired the way she carried herself beautifully. I, on the other hand, had moved around a lot so I didn’t really have a good grasp on my identity. While she demonstrated her presence loudly, I was soft-spoken and less confident in what I had to say. Although there is nothing wrong with that, it was not the person I felt represented me. I think that by interacting with her I was able to see parts of myself that I hadn’t really seen before. They were always a part of who I was - it was just a matter of bringing them out. In a way, I wanted to be my own reflection of that. I think that I did that really well. I have now grown to be a representative individual of myself. I am writing this because there is a way to adopt a healthy mindset when looking at other people. I’m not saying that you should only be inspired by someone else. Just that if you see a missing part of yourself in someone else then you should know that you are also capable of embodying it if it is true to who you are. Elegance, Intelligence, haha, and any other “gence “is not exclusive to that one individual. Sometimes, that won’t be the case either. You can still admire someone for being different without letting jealousy cloud that judgment. While I spoke about one individual there are many people that I have taken inspiration from. I hope that you make those observations for yourself as well.

- With Love, Fiza Usman