The Perfect Compliment
Oh gosh, hi! I can’t say that I haven’t tried finding the time to write a new blog post these past few weeks, but alas I’m here now. I feel like I had so much time to write these posts during my Freshman year, and now in my Junior year, they are drowning in my to-do list between school and work. While this aspect might be quite fortunate, I am actually really enjoying being busy this semester. I seem to have finally found a stable footing in college after a few years. One thing I particularly love about it is that college puts you in a situation where you are constantly meeting people that are so vastly different from you, yet they share a similarity of being great in a way that is unique to them. Sometimes, it is nice to alert others to the recognition of the difference. I don’t believe that is anything new, but I write this blog post to highlight the mere impact something so simple has on all of us. Personally, I find that I can be quite hard on myself sometimes. The accumulation of numerous little things going wrong blurs my vision of anything positive regardless of how much it matters to everyone else. Compliments from others validate perceptions of ourselves that we may or may not have seen before. It proves the value of the commitments and efforts we may pursue. Above all, compliments are easy to give as they are to receive. Giving a compliment is my instinctual first conversation starter (and yes I always mean them), which often always makes me a new friend. Over time, as that friendship develops, it’s no longer I love your outfit but more so I admire who you are and where you come from - and that to me is the perfect compliment. The latter statements have the impact of staying with someone for the rest of their life as a constant reminder of what they work for. I know that because my favorite compliment comes from everyone who reads my blog whether that be a stranger or a friend. Those words are the reason why I am currently procrastinating studying for my midterm to write this instead! And, judging by what I know, I find that people could use those more often than they may say. If you’d like my advice, I encourage you to deliver those more often to the people you know in the chance that the opportunity is not there later. Unfortunately, in the wise words of Selena Gomez, people can go from people you know to people you don’t pretty unexpectedly. To readers whom I personally know, look out for any incoming texts from me today. xoxo! haha.
- With so much love, Fiza Usman
